"We live in a time where the 'joy of sex' is seen as the rightful pursuit of everyone. To be celibate, in fact, is almost to be suspect" --Out of the Shadows p33

"In the addict's world, there is an ongoing tension between a person's normal self and the addicted self. A Jekyll/Hyde struggle emerges. The addictive system is so compelling that to stop would be like death. Yet, as the system continues, the person's values, priorities, and loved ones are attacked. Sometimes, only a major crisis can restore perspective" --Out of the Shadows p27